I have not known this guy long, and the truth is we don't know each other that well. A few snapshots could paint a clear picture of how much we have shared with each other. Although, once in a while you run into someone with whom you instantly connect.
As this guy would say, "Tribe recognizes tribe."
A thought came to me as I was driving home that night.
I trust him.
Even though I don't know him deeply, I feel safe sharing deeply. Even though we don't talk much, I feel safe saying a lot, using few words at times.
I trust his motives. I trust him with my story.
Here is the interesting thing -
I trust my wife, Tanya, more than anyone in the world. She knows me deeper than anyone. I am convinced that she knows me better than anyone ever will. I love that about her. She knows things about me that I have not figured out about myself yet. She is unbelievably intuitive and smart. When I was young I would think about being married, and I realize now that I was so ignorant and shallow. Being connected to someone in this way is more and better than I ever imagined.
That being said, there is deep value in trusting someone outside of our immediate story. There are times when it gets so blurry on the inside that you need someone to come along and flip on the defrost to clear up your vision. There are times when the windows fog up so slowly that you and the others along for the ride with you don't even notice.
I will conclude with this, launching a church is hard. Very hard. Very very hard. The tension can rip you apart. It can rip your family apart. It can rip your friendships apart.
In this context it has been a life saver to have a few good friends, whom I trust, defog the windows from time to time.
P.S.
I know you are reading this, so thanks for dinner.
1 comment:
Hey Josh...I started on blogger this week. "Check me out...no really...check me out." You have to think that in your best Strongbad voice. Love ya!
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